Another Day...Another Dollar

Welcome to the blog of Bear and Jenny and welcome to Goodwell, Oklahoma. I was inspired by many other blogs to come and speak our minds about life here on the Panhandle and about our lives as a M/s couple, from the most mundane to the more interesting bits.

We started our walk as a D/s couple about a year or so ago, and as life and months moved on, we found that we were progressing to a M/s dynamic. It has been a rather interesting ride and it still is to this day. We are learning more about ourselves and our rightful roles.

I've had some people ask me why M/s instead of an equal relationship in Bear's and my life. That is a good question. I believe in equality on employment but at home, Bear is the leader. I am not his equal, nor do I wish to be. As I was growing up, I was told that a woman is just as good as a man for everything, however, I found that to be kinda bullshit. I dated men that tried to treat me as their equal and some that were just so passive and submissive that it made me sick to my stomach. I found that I was happier when I was ruled over,micromanaged and in some respects, when I became a slave, I became free. I knew what my place is in the home, I know what my worth is measured by, I know that when Bear rules with an iron fist...I feel a lot more secure and happy.

I just don't understand the anti-BDSM feminist bloggers that say that in order to be happy, M/s is not the way to go and that one should be happy as an equal. I work in a predominantly male oriented field and when I come home from the kill floor, I know that Bear will put me back in my place.

Very comforting that place is...